1 Peter 3:1 MSG The same goes for you wives: Be good wives to your husbands, responsive to their needs. There are husbands who, indifferent as they are to any words about God, will be captivated
1 Peter 3:6 MSG Sarah, for instance, taking care of Abraham, would address him as “my dear husband.” You’ll be true daughters of Sarah if you do the same, unanxious and unintimidated.
1 Peter 3:6 NKJV as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.
Hey single people! Let me write to you first. One sure way to avoid anxiety, feelings of timidity, and fear of what will my spouse think about my relationship to God, giving, serving, worship, prayer, etc… is don’t marry an unbeliever. I actually go one step further, don’t marry someone that doesn’t agree with your doctrinal statement. If you do… there will be conflict.
For those of you who are married and your spouse is an unbeliever or an under-believer, who do not obey, follow or are indifferent to the Word of God, don’t be afraid to do the right thing. As a Christian, you have a responsibility to follow and serve the Lord God. Yes, you also have a responsibility to your spouse. You did make promises/vows to them on your wedding day. This situation can be tough depending on your spouse.
In these situations, the believing spouse can fear upsetting their unbeliever spouse because they want to go to church at least once a week, attend a small group or Bible Study, as well as special services, outreaches, and serve in some capacity. They certainly rarely ever want to talk about tithes or offerings, after all money is a touchy enough subject. So what do they do.
Peter encourages those in this situation to do what is right and not fear. He said Sarah called Abraham Lord. She respected him and her covenant duties to him and their household. She took care of her responsibilities. The believing spouse should make necessary schedule arrangements to take care of their household responsibilities and fulfill their God ordained ones like showing up to services, praying for their spouse, church and leaders, giving support and pitching in for the work of God with the family of God, & serving the Lord in some capacity (usually in their local church). If that means getting up early on Sunday to prepare breakfast for your spouse before you head to church, do it.
Some special consideration should be made with finances in that the unbelieving spouse may consider the income they were blessed with as theirs and not the Lords. If they are ok with you giving, great. If you keep separate accounts, pay your tithes and give from what is yours. If they are the primary bread winner, tithe on your budgeted discretionary spending. They might just be captivated by your devotion and decide to come with you one Sunday. One last note to single folk: If you think you will win your boy/girlfriend to the Lord after you are married because of the amazing example of Christ you will be, you are deceiving yourself. Statistics and Scripture lean the other direction. Peter was addressing couples that got married as unbelievers and one of the two gave their life to the Lord after the fact and not encouraging marriage as evangelism. As a Believer, your first obligation is to the Lord. Do what is right by Him and fear not!